Missing Out

Most of my days are spend learning for my new job. It’s an endless sea of videos and lessons to learn. Short quizzes at the end of the lesson, and then move on to the next lesson. I have a set of curriculums to go by, around 10 full pages of lessons. Checking each box and marking it off the list as I go along.

Although I am learning a lot, it can get a bit tedious and hard to concentrate sometimes. I try and break up the monotony by getting up and walking around, getting a snack, stretches, do a quick chore, whatever I feel like doing. I’m not trying to finish too quickly. The faster I go, the less I learn.

It feels the same as when I was in school. Missing out on events and time spent with my kids. I started volunteering for a children’s clinic once a week, working with children in recreational activities. It’s a lot of fun seeing these kids have fun. Everyone is very nice and enjoyable to be around. The program is good for the parents too. I started volunteering to meet more people here since I don’t really know anyone here, and to help the kids to have fun. Kind of reminds me of what I had to go through after my brain explosion. That’s why I want to give back to this community.


The volunteering is every Wednesday evening. The same night as my son’s baseball games. I should be able to show up for my son’s games late. I miss out on most of the game. This is just something I felt I needed to do. Have more experiences and give something back. The dilemma I faced was my volunteering interfering with my son’s baseball games. There’s no need for me to go to every one of his games. If I was just going to a bar every Wednesday, that would be a different story.

I also joined a veterans group of submariners. The first meeting was last weekend and I had a lot of fun. It’s a nationwide club with bases in many cities. I have never belonged to an organization like this. It’s out of my comfort zone and not typical of me to join a club like this. Again, I wanted to meet more people and this organization does a lot of work in the community. This doesn’t interfere too much with my work or my kids though.

Making Time

In my last post I talked about making more time with my daughter. Last night we watched the ‘House of Dragon’ show together and had dinner at the coffee table. Wasn’t much of a dinner, just turnovers and then ice cream. But it was nice spending time with her. We haven’t done that in a long time. I’ve been missing out on a lot.

I don’t really have to make too much time with my son. When he gets home from school, we do his homework and then he sits next to me at his little table while I work. We all have dinner together every night. We go to his baseball practices and games together. When my girlfriend comes for the weekend, we all go to his games and have family time.


I do find a little time for myself sometimes. I’ll do a chore, or just relax. My work is actually something I enjoy right now. After I’m done with my training, the hard work will continue, but I think I’ll be good at it. I’ve never done sales before. Talking to people is what I’m good at, no matter where I am or what I’m doing, I always talk to people.

It is a little intimidating and frightening to start working on commissions. I am missing out on things to do the job as best I can, learning as much as I can to make me good at what I do. This job does offer a good work/life balance, once I get going of course. The only person who will shape my future is me.

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Published by Michael Foglietta

I will be 51 years old in August of 2022, I will also graduate from The University of Arizona with my first Bachelor's degree in Political Science/International Relations. It was a long road to get to this point. In December of 2003 I had a blood clot burst in the back of my head which sidelined my career as a Test Engineer. I was not expected to survive, have meaningful employment, or go back to college. I accomplished all 3 despite my learning disability and other side effects. I spend many years in recovery. I decided to return to college and then enter the workforce once again. I am currently finishing my last few classes and then I will have my diploma in August of 2022. Extremely happy and proud of what I've accomplished. Now I just need to find a job here in Tucson. Hopefully a career opportunity. I started this website with the intention of blogging about my long journey to this point and showcase my writing ability with the hopes of breaking into freelance writing. I hope that my story can be an inspiration to others who have had similar life changing events and share thoughts in this forum, which I am new to and still learning.

12 thoughts on “Missing Out

  1. I’m glad you were able to spend more time with your daughter, I know that’s something you mentioned you wanted to work on. I think things will definitely get better once the course is complete and you start working.

    1. I do miss writing, not just on my blog, but writing articles too. I am spending a lot of time training. Maybe too much training, but I want to be as prepared as possible when I start working. If I had a guaranteed income like I do right now, I would be writing as my career right now. Maybe some day I can do that.

      1. Yeah maybe in the future you can write full-time. Once you’re done with training hopefully you’ll have more time for other stuff.

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