After my article was published, I received a lot of feedback from readers. So far in my writing career I consider a lot of feedback as any feedback. Feedback is feedback, both good and bad. There were some negative comments which related to getting my degree in an ’employable field’. I can’t even really say what that means, as any degree is an employable field. Another one was telling me not to make excuses as to why I can’t find a job. Most of the comments were very supportive by a wide array of people. Many of them gave me very helpful advice and different things to try. I am most appreciative of the individuals that put the time in to send me an email and offer their services (for free). It is extremely gratifying to know that there are people out there willing to help.
After everything that I have been through, I have developed a pretty thick skin. Negativity doesn’t affect me very much, it simply gives me an alternate point of view. During my college career, Professors always point out the bad points, and the good points of assignments. Well, most do that, some just point out the bad. Either way, it gives me more information on how to improve. During the most difficult times of my recovery, I had to face certain facts and realities. Simple things like walking, turning my head, getting dressed, not being able to do whatever I want, were realities I had difficulty with. Every single thing I did was difficult. Many still are.
Many people are blissfully unaware of what I go through. People look at me or talk to me and think there is nothing wrong with me simply because I look and act like a normal person. Yes, I can do things like wash my car, yardwork, talk, laugh, smile, travel, write, graduate from college, but these seemingly small things are extremely difficult for me. Writing a paper or article takes me days or even weeks to write. Physical things are the worst. I can only do so much and then I have to rest. No one really sees that part, and probably don’t even think about it.
It is incredibly frustrating to sit here at my computer and look at my screen for 3 hours and write absolutely nothing. The article I wrote took 3 days to write. Writing my blog posts takes hours, and they are relatively short. I do it because I enjoy it, that doesn’t mean that it’s easy. Everyone who puts themselves out into the public eye faces criticism of all kinds. The thick skin is a necessity to survive. Frustration is just annoying and I don’t like it.
Who doesn’t like accolades? These are affirmations that I (or you) did something right in someone’s eye. An affirmation from a close friend or family member is far different than an affirmation from a total stranger. Most of us place more importance on an affirmation from a stranger than a close friend or family member. Why? Because family and friends normally have to agree. Who is going to tell you that your baby is the most hideous thing they have ever seen? Probably no one, but a total stranger might.
For the accolades I received and the personal messages, I can’t thank those individuals enough. There are good and decent people out there. I hope my article can help someone in some small way. I wasn’t paid for my article, but that doesn’t matter to me at all. It would have been nice of course, but has no bearing on the content of that article, or any others I submit in the future.